Have you ever thought that if you just met the right person, all your problems would be solved. It's a trap, and here is how to avoid getting caught in it, and what to do instead.

So may singles get caught in this one

They believe that if they can just meet the right person, then all of their emotional, financial, and other problems with living will be solved right away. It's a trap, for one reason, because that is way too much pressure to put on anyone.

In addition, this convinces you that you have very little power to effect your own life. This one leaves you feeling desperate and needy.

When problems multiply instead of disappear, the relationship is likely to fail.

Solution: First of all, there is a proverb that says

"Without a vision, the people perish."

I believe this is true for relationships as well.

What is your vision for your relationship? One way to get started on your vision is to ask the question:

"If I could write the screenplay, what would it look like?"

Know that your relationship will not exactly match the screen play. Too may times we look for a custom tailored perfect fit in an off-the-rack world. This is just a question to get you started on creating your relationship vision.

The second thing you need to do is resolve your personal, emotional, financial and other life problems before you commit to a long term relationship.

You then stand a much great chance of relationship success.